Clear your head to find the answers

We all want answers. Whether it's when we're going to meet the love of our lives, or how we're ever going to figure out what we really want to be when we grow up, answers are in high demand these days.  And yet, all many of us seem to be finding are questions - and then some more questions.  Who am I? What do I want? How can I get it? When will I get it? Will I ever get it? Those five questions alone are enough to make anyone dizzy.  I'm not saying that there isn't something to be said for "living with the questions" and waiting patiently for the answers. Nor am I suggesting that life is all about finding the answers immediately.  BUT. There are a bunch of answers right at your arm's length right now (yes at this very moment) that you can access should you like to. And a lot of the time, we get so used to living in the land of "I don't know" - "I don't know whether I want to stay with my boyfriend or girlfriend," "I don't know whether to leave my job or not," "I don't know what kind of business I would start."  Here's the thing. I'm going to get very real with you for a minute here (I hope that's okay). You DO know. Or at least you know a lot more than you're giving yourself credit for. So then why oh why do we feel stuck in our own confusion? There are 2 possibilities.  1. You're not giving yourself the time or space to listen to the answers. 2. You're not ready to hear what the answers are. See, when we hear the answer we're looking for, and we take ownership over it, we're driven to take action. It's very hard to know with full certainty that you're in a relationship that's not working for you, and still stay put. Therefore, to delay or avoid taking action, we choose the safest response for the time being, which ends up being: "I don't know." Because as frustrating as not knowing may be, it's probably far less scary than the idea of breaking up (or changing your career path, or moving to a new city).  So what's the moral of the story? First, decide if you're really ready to listen to what your core truths are saying. Are you ready to hear what they have to say, and as a result, take action that might not feel the most comfortable to take? Are you ready to step outside of your comfort zone and choose authenticity over playing it safe? Growth doesn't come from staying put; it comes from stretching yourself, from challenging your limits. To find these seemingly elusive answers is simple: get quiet. Remarkably simple, and yet not necessarily so remarkably easy. Whether you close your eyes and let your mind drift, take a yoga class, or sit with your journal and a pen is up to you.  There's no magic potion beyond that. The answers to all of your questions live inside of you. Some are easier to access than others, but they're all there, waiting to be heard. It's up to you as to how fast that happens.      This week's Quarter Life Clarity assignment   Decide whether or not you're ready to uncover the answers that live within you.If you're not, that's totally okay! Just take ownership of that, and recognize that it's not that "you don't know" - it's that you don't want to know - and that's a significant difference. If you are, fantastic! Give yourself at least 15 minutes a day to get quiet and then repeat your question to yourself or in your journal, and let it sit. The answer will soon appear. Listen closely.