Stop telling yourself you need it

How many times have you used the word NEED? I need money I need a new job I need to be in a relationship I need to know what's going on I need to feel better now In all likelihood, it probably doesn't make you feel so great. Telling yourself you need something puts you in a mindset of desperation, frustration, and urgency. And how's that working for you?  To say that you "need" something implies that something in your life is lacking. It's choosing to see the world through the lens of scarcity, which doesn't serve you on any level.  So you might be wondering - what's a better alternative? What word can you use instead of "need" to help you shift your perspective? The word to use instead is INTEND. Intend is the new need. When you use the word intend, you completely shift your perspective. No longer are you in a position where your happiness is determined by whether you do or do not have something. When you need something, you lose your power. Saying you need something gives your circumstances the power. Your okay-ness is contingent upon something else that you don't currently have. And as a result, there is a sense of urgency and even fear that propels you forward. Replacing the word "need" with "intend" brings the power back to you. Intend implies that you are back in the driver's seat; you are no longer propelled by fear and urgency, rather by your own personal power.  And what a difference that makes! Suddenly, you feel like attaining what you desire is possible and within your reach. This shifts the energy you bring to your life, and to the actions you take.  I need money becomes I intend to attract money into my life I need a new job becomes I intend to find a new job that I love I need to be in a relationship becomes I intend to meet a fantastic partner I need to know what's going on becomes I intend to find some answers I need to feel better now becomes I intend to find ways to make myself feel better Saying it this way - reframing it - makes you feel better. And feelings are what attract your circumstances. While the definition of "need" is "to be in want", "intend" means "to direct the mind on" or "to have in mind as a purpose or goal." Which would you prefer to use? The choice is yours. Choose wisely.  If you liked this article, and want to receive weekly articles like this in your inbox every Thursday, you can sign up here: Yes! I love this stuff.