You don't need a bathroom pass

A lot of us are waiting for something or someone in order to get to where we want to go. Whether we feel like we need a parent's approval, a significant other's validation, or a sign of some sort, a lot of people are holding to the notion of a bathroom pass. Enough with the waiting! Enough with thinking that your need people's permission or go-ahead to live your life full out. Sure, would it be nicer if you had approval, validation, or some indication that what you're doing is the "right" thing for you? Yes, you might feel like taking the leap - whether towards a promotion or a new relationship - would be easier with extra cushion of reassurance. But, here's the thing. Life doesn't work that way. Life isn't about seeking the approval of others. Do you know how many people have succeededbecause they chose the path that their family and peers didn't support? Unconditional love is just that. It is love without conditions. The people who really and truly love you unconditionally will love you regardless of the path you take. They may not be the biggest fans, but when it all comes down to it, who gets to win - you or them? Would you rather live a life in accordance with THEIR dreams and hopes for you, and feel unfulfilled and inauthentic as a result, or live a life that speaks to YOU and what your heart really wants?    When we were in fifth grade, and didn't raise our hand to ask for the bathroom pass, or we would get up and start to leave without the pass, the teacher would stop us. And we would listen. Because we were 10 years old. We've graduated from junior high since then, and with that, comes our graduation from these ridiculous rules. When you get up to go somewhere, and someone says, stop, keep going. When you want to go do something, but feel like it's not your turn, get over it, and keep going. Whatever you do, keep going. Your dreams depend on it.  There is no bathroom pass that's granted to you by others. Your fifth grade teacher is no longer calling the shots. Nor are your parents or friends or significant other. You, Jordana, are responsible for seeing your dreams through to reality. Whether or not people approve and high-five you along the way is really irrelevant. It's not other people's responsibilities to validate you and give you permission to live the life of your dreams. It's on you.  So do yourself a favor and grant yourself a lifelong bathroom pass to do whatever it is that feels right to you. The next time you're seeking someone's approval, look within, and give it to yourself. The bathroom pass is no longer hanging on a hook by the door; it's in your hand. Once you really get that, life will become much easier, freeing, and fun.  If you liked this article, and want to receive weekly articles like this in your inbox every Thursday, you can sign up here: Yes! I love this stuff.